We humans seem to have a unique capacity for music. Birds may seem to sing but each of their songs conveys a particular message. Bird songs are more like phrases. “I am looking for you.” “Get out of my territory.” And other messages,
Some years ago my cousin and I went camping in the Boundary Waters here in Minnesota. As we drove up we listened to a tape of Loon calls. Loons are birds that live on Northern Lakes. They will let out a call and then dive below the water. Thus, as you look across the lake for the source of the call, you feel you are going “Looney”.
Each Loon call has a particular meaning. Since, loons are nocturnal animals. My cousin and I got little sleep as we listened to the messages the loons were giving to each other.
So much for loons. Neither they, nor the wolfs that howl, seek to harmonize. Yet people do, both in our personal lives and our relationships to others.
So, how can we harmonize our lives?
A chorus will have several voices, typically Sopranos, Altos, Tenors and Bases. As they construct a chord one voice will sing a note. Each of the other voices will then sing a note that has a unique relationship to that first note. These notes will resonate with the first so that they regularly reinforce and cancel the first one out. This creates an other note. The whole things are pleasing to hear.
Our lives have several parts just like a choir. I divide them into Physical, Emotional, Social and Spiritual. We can choose any one of these to be the basis our life. When we are socializing, our physical body allows us to relate in ways pleasing to others. We adjust our emotions to support the social interaction. (How often do you catch yourself when tempted to make an unwelcomed remark?) The spiritual also takes a back seat to the social.
Like a musical composition the various voices of your lives take turns being the basis of the harmony in our lives. Sometimes we care for our body, like eating or bathing. At other times our bodies have the melody, like in playing sports or dancing.
When the various voices of our lives are not in harmony we get a dissonance. That comes out in the form of physical illness, emotional stress, social discord or spiritual isolation.
How do you find this metaphor in your life?
In future blogs I will explore this metaphor more if you share your experiences I will try to incorporate them into the blogs.
As All Ways, Seek Joy,
Coach Dr. Dave
Hi Dave. I really like the harmony metaphor. And there are a lot more ways you can talk about music in relationship to coaching. I used a music metaphor in my Power Tool–Information to Transformation.
Many times in my life I think I am singing my own tune. A solo if you will. It is interesting to think about. When I am actually singing in a choir, I need to sing the melody and I don’t want any solo! I want to be in harmony with others.
When I think about my life and my physical struggles, I know I am not always in harmony. It is easy for the limitations to take over and for me to focus on the “can’t do” rather then embracing the time to have a rest for a few measures of the music of my life. I am not the conductor. God has personally written my music for me. And even though I think I carry the melody, sometimes I just have to let it go and let other carry on with I have a few measures of rest.
Thanks for the metaphor. It is comforting to recognize that rests are all part of the great symphony.
Debby,
I had not thought about how at times we only want to be out front. I hope to use this metaphor more in the future.
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